Its been a while since I’ve done a post because I’ve just been so busy! But me and my best friend have been talking about the highs and lows of life a lot recently and I thought it’d be the perfect subject for the blog. Everyone goes through highs and lows in their life, whether its leaving a terrible relationship and meeting someone new who’s wonderful or as simple as dropping your toast jam side down but finding your favourite jumper that you thought you’d lost later in the day. When you have M.E. or any other long-term health condition you spend alot of time riding the waves. You have a wonderful day out but feel awful the next day and have to rest. This used to frustrate me massively, I thought I’m never getting better and I’d be angry at myself, but then the next day I’d feel fine again and stupid for getting so wound up. What I’ve learned is that when you get floored by a massive wave, if you pick yourself up and keep calm, you can float to shore on top of the next one, hell you might even be able to surf it like a badass!
There are many times in my life when I’ve felt like I was drowning for weeks on end, like I was treading water and everytime I tried to get my head above the waves I’d get smashed by another one. But I was letting those waves keep me down. If I’d rested, reduced my load, asked for help and focussed on the little positives I would have floated to shore much sooner. It really is all about perspective, If you think you’re gonna drown, you’re gonna drown. If you tell yourself this is just the latest low, but I know I’ll pick back up again soon then you’re much more likely to recover quicker because you’ll stop panicking and catatrophising and be able to focus on what you need to do to help yourself.
I guess this all comes back to beliefs again. If you believe you’re going to be ok, it won’t magically make that happen, but you will focus on the things that will make you better and put the work in. I used to be terrified of trying something new in case it made me ill or hurt me, whether it was going to a house party or asking someone out, but knowing ‘the theory of waves’ (this is probably a physics term, but I’m appropriating it) makes me a lot less afraid of life. And I did both of those things in the last week, and I’m very glad I did, and I’m still alive! I intend to keep practicing and aim to ride some gnarly waves soon dudes!
Can you see the theory of waves playing out in your life?
What can you do to help yourself next time you get floored by a big wave?
None of us are invincible, if you make an extreme decision to do something that risks your life, you’re probably not going to be ok. But in the spectrum of everyday occurences, if you’re feeling a bit rubbish right now, have faith that you will be ok and let it help you take the steps you need to help yourself.
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